First, I would like to say that I don't care what your opinion on the matter is. There is validity to both claims, and I am not going to judge you based on which side you place yourself on. I have seen so much ignorance on both sides of this argument, and would like to remind people that you will gain more respect (and followers) with honey than with vinegar.
I am a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. I am a Mormon. One of the fundamental beliefs in my religion is that of "free agency." This means that we each have the opportunity to make our own decisions. As a member of the Church, I believe the War in Heaven was fought over the right to choose. I believe this is a right as fundamental and important as any in this country, and possibly more instrumental in our eternal progression.
Let me give you a little background, and a little lesson in Mormon theology. We believe that there was a great council in heaven in which God presented a plan. We would be sent to earth in order to be tested, and to prove ourselves worthy to live in God's presence for the rest of eternity. Because we are imperfect, we would make mistakes, and we would sin. In order to counteract these sins, God would provide us with a Savior, so we could all still return to God's presence.
At this point in the plan, Lucifer came forward. He said that he (Lucifer) would be the savior. He would force all of God's children (us) to do what was right so that we could all return, and he (Lucifer) would receive all the Glory. Jesus Christ also stepped forward. He (Jesus) volunteered to be our Savior; we would be able to choose what path we would take, and God would have all the glory. Jesus' plan was accepted, and Lucifer rebelled, causing him to be cast out of heaven, along with the host of souls that followed him. He then became Satan, and took it upon himself to tempt us to sin. The souls that followed God and Jesus Christ were given bodies and sent down to the earth.
Because you are here on the earth today, it means you chose to follow Jesus Christ from the beginning. It means you fought for the right to choose before you were even born.
I still fight for the right to choose. While I may not agree with all lifestyle choices, it does not give me a right to judge. Every man, woman, and child has the right to make their own decisions in life, and our Savior and God will be their judges in the last days.
So, as long as the government recognizes the separation of church and state, and will not force churches to perform marriages that clash with their beliefs, I see no problem with any of this. What other people do in their own bedrooms, marriages, and lives is none of my business. And none of yours either.
Marriage equality supporters, please stop calling me a bigot. I don't hate you. I don't judge you. So, please, don't hate or judge me for my beliefs, either.
Fellow Mormons, and other people "defending" marriage, don't forget to recognize others' right to make choices for themselves. Don't spew hate and vitriol. That is not how Jesus Christ would handle this situation, and it's not how we should either. Instead, turn to the government. Ensure we are not creating a government that can dictate how we run our churches, our religion, and our lives.
President Uchtdorf said this in General Conference one year:
"This topic of judging others could actually be taught in a two-word sermon. When it comes to hating, gossiping, ignoring, ridiculing, holding grudges, or wanting to cause harm, please apply the following:
It’s that simple. We simply have to stop judging others and replace judgmental thoughts and feelings with a heart full of love for God and His children. God is our Father. We are His children. We are all brothers and sisters. I don’t know exactly how to articulate this point of not judging others with sufficient eloquence, passion, and persuasion to make it stick. I can quote scripture, I can try to expound doctrine, and I will even quote a bumper sticker I recently saw. It was attached to the back of a car whose driver appeared to be a little rough around the edges, but the words on the sticker taught an insightful lesson. It read, “Don’t judge me because I sin differently than you.”
We must recognize that we are all imperfect—that we are beggars before God. Haven’t we all, at one time or another, meekly approached the mercy seat and pleaded for grace? Haven’t we wished with all the energy of our souls for mercy—to be forgiven for the mistakes we have made and the sins we have committed?
Because we all depend on the mercy of God, how can we deny to others any measure of the grace we so desperately desire for ourselves? My beloved brothers and sisters, should we not forgive as we wish to be forgiven?"
Regardless of your position on these issues, I respect you. I'm not judging you. It's not my place. Please, give the same courtesy to others.